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pomelomela:

Even the most sexed up man in all of history knew that taking advantage of women was never ok.

plannedparenthood:

nekomcevil:

A very strong message from the latest comic in the Oh Joy Sex Toy series.
This is only an edit I made from the original comic - the art and the concept all belong to the awesome Erika Moen whose tumblr you can find here 


Quality advice from Erika Moen. If you’re consensually sent a picture that’s meant to be private, don’t share it!

plannedparenthood:

nekomcevil:

A very strong message from the latest comic in the Oh Joy Sex Toy series.

This is only an edit I made from the original comic - the art and the concept all belong to the awesome Erika Moen whose tumblr you can find here 

Quality advice from Erika Moen. If you’re consensually sent a picture that’s meant to be private, don’t share it!

I have gotten one question repeatedly from young men. These are guys who liked the book, but they are honestly confused. They ask me why Melinda was so upset about being raped.
The first dozen times I heard this, I was horrified. But I heard it over and over again. I realized that many young men are not being taught the impact that sexual assault has on a woman. They are inundated by sexual imagery in the media, and often come to the (incorrect) conclusion that having sex is not a big deal. This, no doubt, is why the number of sexual assaults is so high.

Laurie Halse Anderson, author of Speak, on the question “Have any readers ever asked questions that shocked you?”

Read that again. Read it again, and again, and again. Over and over guys have asked her why Melinda was so upset about being raped. This is a girl who went to a party with friends. She was thirteen. She had a drink, because everyone else was. And a senior held her down and raped her while she was too drunk to get away.

And guys don’t understand why she was upset.

Read that again and then come back and tell me again why I should just shut up and take a joke when a comedian blows off rape as a big deal, or women’s bodies are casually treated as commodities in media. Remind me why I shouldn’t care about the very real harm that society’s treatment of women and sexual assault does.

(via nosuchthingasfiction)

herbertbillings:

100 Reasons (Why I’m Not Out To My Family)” pt. 2

(in which members of the lgbtq community speak out about why they’re not open about their sexuality with their families.)

poster series

Shari Heck, 2014.

bidyke:

itcostsalottorentaspaceship:

jessidork:

lacigreen:

50shadesofacceptance:

superdodirty:

it ok to not be ready

Please spread this shit like wildfire. People go on and sit through the whole experience and they’re uncomfortable because they just want to please their partner and they don’t tell them that they want to stop because they are not ready. It’s okay not to be ready. 

i wish someone had told me this kind of stuff when i was younger… ಠ_ಠ

I REALLY REALLY WANT TO POINT OUT that this person’s partner first stopped & checked in when they saw physical discomfort, not when they heard verbal discouragement. This is so so important: a good partner will be paying attention to how you’re responding and they should factor that in! “Well, you didn’t say anything” is a SHITTY NO-GOOD EXCUSE. It’s ok not to be ready and it’s ok to back out but it’s so important to pay attention to each other!

Also, if you are having sex with someone and you put out those “I’m not into this and I wanna stop” signals, and they ignore them, I highly recommend you rethink having sex with them ever again. Also just generally being around them. Because when a sexual partner sees your discomfort and doesn’t check in, they are selfish at best and dangerous at worst.

I need to say, since no one has said it so far in this particular thread of commentary: Saying “I’m sorry” is okay, but please be aware that it’s a part of internalized oppression that tells us that if we’re not sexually available to a person, then we must have wronged them. This is not true. Anyone can withdraw consent at any point and you don’t have to apologize for it because it is absolutely your right.

feedmyaddictionnow:

kingofwesteros:

Publicity done right in an anti-rape campaign: double-page spread, pages glued to one another. After the reader forcefully separates them, the image above is revealed with the caption “if you have to use force, it’s rape”.

THIS IS BRILLIANT

feedmyaddictionnow:

kingofwesteros:

Publicity done right in an anti-rape campaign: double-page spread, pages glued to one another. After the reader forcefully separates them, the image above is revealed with the caption “if you have to use force, it’s rape”.

THIS IS BRILLIANT

send-a-smile:

"The Rape Poem to End All Rape Poems."

One of the best pieces of group spoken word poetry I’ve ever seen. WATCH IT.